Lots going on right now, so I’m going to go ahead and put the real writing on the backburner for a bit and instead post a meme, whatever that is. I just call them surveys.
I chose this one because 1) Dooce also filled it out and 2) I’m so in love with my husband and am ever increasingly proud and honored to be with him.
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Lynn. Ushwin doesn’t have one. I must remember to ask whether this was a culture thing or what.
How long have you been together?
We’ve been married for almost 2 ½ years, together for 4 ½.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Hehe, well our relationship didn’t follow the usual progression. He emailed me October 19th, booked a ticket to come see me November 6th, and when he arrived the week before Christmas, we were as in love as you can be having only done so by correspondence.
Who asked whom out?
Welll, he ‘found’ me first and emailed me. Does that count?
How old are each of you?
I’m 27, he’s 31. Four years isn’t a huge difference, but it’s funny to think about the staggering differences between our lives at certain times… Like, when I was 14 – a junior high cheerleader, too shy to talk to boys that I liked, the cool kid in my church youth group, completely naive. Ush was 18 – finished with secondary school, travelling around Europe with three of his friends, clubbing, meeting many of the friends that he (we) now see regularly.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
Neither – because Ush doesn’t have any and my brother lives about 5,000 miles away. Sad on both counts.
Do you have any children together?
Of the human variety? No thanks! (I used to say “Maybe when I’m 30..” But now even that feels too soon!)
What about pets?
Now you’re talkin! Our babies are two little Cavalier King Charles Spaniels and the words ‘pride and joy’ don’t quite come close!
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
While we’re similar in a lot of important ways, we’re also very different in others. That can be exciting, in the sense that we relish each other’s individuality, but it can also be difficult to compromise and learn to work around things sometimes.
Did you go to the same school?
We didn’t even live in the same country…
Are you from the same home town?
Not even the same continent!
Who is smarter?
Ush is smarter. He retains information much better than me, and is really good at sifting through a large amount of info and pulling out the important bits. I have to read the whole thing, then sit and think for a minute, and then try to summarise.
Who is the most sensitive?
Yeah, that’d be me.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Hehe, more like ‘where’ do we eat in 
Friday night is takeaway night – usually it’s Japanese, but also sometimes Indian or Thai. Occasionally pizza.
Fave place to eat out locally is a mediterranean restaurant called, brilliantly, Medi.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Er, just between here and Chicago. We did a road trip to Nebraska once.
Hoping to visit India soon, and also South America. Australia. Thailand. (etcetcetc)
Who has the craziest exes?
No crazies. Mine were normal – my heart was broken once and then I broke a heart and then went thru a long phase of unrequited love. Ush was a loved b*stard, then was infatuated and dumped, then spent a long time being comfortable (aka lazy) in a relationship that should’ve just been a friendship. We both learned a lot from these experiences.
Who has the worst temper?
We both have our moments! Thankfully, it very often happens that when one of us is busy losing his/her sh*t, the other is magically calm and under control.
If we’re losing our temper at each other, there’s some shouting that almost always diffuses into laughter somehow.
Who does the cooking?
Mostly me. I started out making easy meals that merely required the warming up of the various ingredients, and still do this sometimes, but I actually cook now too.
Who is the neat-freak?
Put it this way, Ush is happy to live amongst piles and piles of stuff. I am not. I’m by no means a neat freak, I just prefer a happy medium between that and filth.
Who is more stubborn?
We both have our moments. I’m more likely to give in sooner.
Who hogs the bed?
We have nightly fights for the duvet, so I’d say we’re BOTH guilty of hogging that. But I guess I’m the inadvertent bed hog, which must be down to my limbs having a mind of their own once I fall asleep.. I’ll often wake up to feel his legs pushing mine away, and he’s told tales of waking up because I’ve punched him in the forehead or kneed him in the groin. Whoops!
Who wakes up earlier?
Neither of us are early birds by choice. Ushwin usually has to get up earlier than me, so I get to stretch out, yawn out a “Have a good day, honey!” and roll over for another half hour of snoozing.
I make it up to him at the weekends by getting up to let the dogs out, letting him sleep a bit longer, and making tea when he wakes up.
Where was your first date?
Um, his entire 10 days in Chicago was our first date!
Who is more jealous?
Not so much jealous, but occasionally insecure. *raises hand*
How long did it take to get serious?
About two weeks by correspondence.
About two minutes in person.
Who eats more?
I tease Ush for having eyes that are bigger than his stomach, but to his credit he can also quite happily skip meals whereas that idea is almost laughable to me.
Who does the laundry?
Me. I taught him how to use the machine once. Remember when I said he’s happy to live amongst piles of stuff? He can’t see the point in doing laundry until he’s out of tshirts/socks/pants/etc.
Who’s better with the computer?
Ush. I’m not hopeless (in fact, I’m a computer genius according to the secretaries at work), but Ushwin is the one who, when I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t run updates on my EeePC due to lack of space, informed me I needed to empty the recycling bin. Oops.
Who drives when you are together?
The cab/bus/tube driver. We don’t drive here, but when we’re in the States I drive.
I love you, honey. ♥
